Dos and Don’ts when planning your wedding
Planning a wedding can be hard. Especially if you’ve never planned such a big event before. To ensure that your wedding will be a blast, we collected the most important DOs and DON’Ts when planning your wedding. So let’s get started right away:
Start planning early (12 months minimum)
We can’t emphasize this one enough. It all begins with starting early. Make sure to have enough time planned to tackle all the different areas of planning a wedding. There will be times where unexpected problems will rise and you might need a little more time than you expected before. To avoid any lack in time, start planning your wedding at least 12 months before the special day. Remember: The earlier you start, the more time you will have in the end to enjoy what you have created. Don’t let time be your worst enemy.
Budget early – budget for everything
The worst enemy of most couples – besides time – is money. No matter if you have a big budget or a rather small one, money plays an important role for your wedding. There is nothing worse than realizing after your big day that you spent way too much and need to apply for a loan. So determining a realistic budget for your wedding should be one of the really first steps you make. And don’t only budget the big expenses. Most of the time, it’s the small things that add up and break the budget. Try to anticipate what the DJ for your wedding party might cost, as well as the design of your invitations and the seating cards you might need to order. But most important: Include your honeymoon. You definitely don’t want to miss this one on your list!
Prepare for every weather
There are as many predictable things that will happen at your wedding as there are unpredictable ones. Do everything you can to prepare for all contingencies, such as the weather. Don’t make the mistake to trust the weather forecast a week before. We all know how accurate those can be. Instead make sure there are enough cooled drinks and maybe ask your sister if she can bring a parasol or two as it might be sunny and pretty hot on your special day. It could as well be rainy, so ask your uncle Tom to pack his pavilion beforehand, just in case you suddenly need it.
Make sure your location is big enough (DJ, Catering…) PLAN B
Imagine you booked the venue of your dreams, just to realize on your wedding day that you can only fit half the people in. Talk to the manager of your venue, he will most likely know how much space you will need for everything and how much space will be left for your guests. Plan enough room for the DJ and the catering. Do you plan to rent a photo booth? Guess what, here go another four square meters. Always keep in mind that the venue might turn out much smaller in the end than it looked at the beginning.
Let your groom get involved (Budget, music, seating order, menu)
Most men love to get involved in planning the special day, it’s also their wedding after all. Feel free to ask your husband-to-be to support you with the budgeting or tell him to select his favorite songs that he wants played at the wedding. Maybe he also wants to help decide the menu and come to the final tasting with you. Remember that two brains usually work better than one, so try to get all the support you can, ensuring that your wedding will be the perfect day for you two.
Try to keep the focus on the important things
Because planning a wedding can be overwhelming at times, try to always keep your focus on the important things, such as the venue, the musicians, the caterer and the photographer. It will be very easy for you to get side-tracked and work on things that don’t really matter for the wedding. If you do this too much, this is most likely the point where your time will become scarce and your budget will start to break.
To make sure this doesn’t happen, always make lists that help you store the important information and your progress in different areas. If you want to, you can download our free wedding planning checklist so you always know, which challenges you passed and which areas are still left to be tackled.
Collect written confirmations from your vendors (so there are not bad surprises)
Having trust in your vendors is a good thing, but it’s still better to have control. That’s why you always want to collect written confirmations from your vendors. These should include the date and time, the venue and detailed information about the service, such as volumes, expected lead times and – last but not least – the price that both of you agreed on. You can store these information and have access to them whenever you need them, which will also help you focus on the important things.
Take time for yourself, especially on your special day
Don’t let the sheer amount of challenges that you are about to encounter take your air to breathe. It is important that you always plan enough time for yourself during the week, so that your body can digest the emotional rollercoaster that you’ve been through the last weeks. Try to do different activities that you think are fun at least once per week. Maybe even factor in a massage or two per week into your wedding budget. You-time is just as important as the wedding itself. Remember your groom wants you to be a happy bride. If you’re about to feel burnt-out, ask your husband-to-be for help.
Don’t do everything on your own
As this point is especially important, we have to stress it once again. Only because you want to do everything on your own doesn’t mean you should. Ask friends and family for inspiration and maybe even a supporting hand. Your mum will be more than happy to give you some additional tips on what you could do to save time, money, and a lot of hassle. She’s got the experience, feel free to benefit from it.
Other people who will be willing to help are your bridesmaids. The earlier you introduce them to your wedding plans, the more they will be able to help and assist you when you’re in need.
Don’t invite everybody
This one might seem to be a bit harsh at first, but really consider not inviting everybody you know. Keep in mind the more people you invite, the more space and food you need. If you pay around $100 for food and drinks per person on your wedding, not inviting your neighbors might already save you a couple 100 dollars. Another way to limit your guest list can be to only let your single friends come alone and not bring other friends. They will meet other people at your wedding anyway and this helps you plan more accurately.
Don’t act all bossy on your special day – be kind
We get it. You will have a lot of stress and you need to be in control of everything that happens at your wedding. But try to be kind to your vendors. Plan everything you can ahead of the big day and let your vendors do their work. Don’t try to over-coordinate on your wedding day. Have trust in your vendors, after all there were reasons you hired them and not somebody else, right?
Don’t do everything at once
Yes, there are a lot of things to do right from the beginning and you would like to start with everything at once. Please don’t do it. Try to plan out the whole process of planning your wedding before and then work along the timeline. This way you don’t lose track of any tasks and make sure you’re always in time.
Always keep in mind your wedding should be a very special day. Try to relax and enjoy your party, have a good time with your guests and share a beautiful day with your loved ones. After all, such a day won’t come again soon.
If your wedding day is coming soon, you might want to check out our list of things to do in the last week before your wedding.
Feel free to tell us about your wedding tips in the comment section below and see you soon!